The first thing that you need to focus on after being dumped by your ex is to get a hold of your emotions and not to lose your head. You need to watch your actions carefully because this part of the breakup is crucial, since it is still fresh.
You cannot afford to make any mistakes and diminish your chances of making your ex want you back. So do not be too impulsive. You know that you are still emotionally unstable. You are filled with pain and probably anger. So, focus more on letting go of these negative emotions. Take some time to cry yourself dry, rant about it to your family and friends, and simply let them out of your system.
Once you have pulled yourself back together completely, time to move on to the next step. This time, you need to come up with a concrete action plan that will lead you to the ultimate goal, which is being back together with your ex.
The initial part of your plan should include some time of your own. You will need this to calm your nerves and emotions, as well as think things over. This will take approximately two weeks for you to accomplish. Meanwhile, do not contact your ex until you find out why the relationship failed the first place, what you have done to contribute to the breakup, and what kind actions you will take to rectify the problems.
After taking a break, bringing yourself back in whole, and identifying the problems as well as solutions in the relationship, you may start getting in touch with your ex. But don’t be too intrusive or threatening. Use a casual and friendly approach. Ask him/her out over a friendly date. If he/she agrees, chances are, he/she still feels the same way about you.
Start by being friends with each other while discussing matters about your relationship simultaneously. Try to work things out as a team and allow the romance to resurface from there.
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